How do you tell your partner you want a prenup?

On Behalf of | Nov 10, 2023 | Prenuptial Agreements

A prenuptial (prenup) agreement offers numerous benefits, including promoting honest conversations about money before marriage, shielding you and your future spouse from each other’s debts, providing guidance on major life aspects and facilitating a peaceful divorce if you ever need one.

But how do you tell your partner you want to enter into an agreement that some people view with suspicion? Here is how:

Clearly explain your reason for the prenup

When informing your partner about a prenup, you should clearly explain why you want it. They should know you are committed to the relationship, but you want a prenup to protect each other/ your children, agree on how to handle issues in the marriage and so on.

Let your partner express their feelings

You may have taken time to understand a prenup in-depth, but your partner may not have. Thus, they may not be on the same page as you. Do not approach the talk as if you are issuing demands. Consider their view about getting a prenup and stay calm if they don’t want it. Trying to convince them may worsen matters.

Have the conversation early

You should have a prenup conversation earlier, if possible, before engagement. Your partner deserves adequate time to research the matter to make informed decisions. Initiating the conversation when it’s too late, such as a few days before the wedding, may make them feel pressured to sign the agreement. Not only is this unfair, but it may mean a court considers the prenup invalid.

Starting a conversation around a prenuptial agreement can be uncomfortable. The above-discussed tips can help you hold the discussion effectively.