Minnesota reality TV fans may be happy to hear that Rob Kardashian has reached an agreement with Blac Chyna over the support of their 1-year-old daughter. The terms of the deal were agreed upon in mid-September.
According to media reports, the former couple will share custody of their child. Kardashian will also pay his ex-girlfriend $20,000 each month in child support. Meanwhile, Chyna has agreed to drop the domestic violence claims she leveled against Kardashian in July.
Informal negotiations, mediation, collaborative divorce and arbitration are all among the options available for a Minnesota couple who are divorcing and who have young children. Parents may be able to save time and money as well as retain more control over the final outcome if they use one of these methods instead of going to litigation. These approaches are also less adversarial.
Informal negotiations may involve parents, parents and their respective attorneys, or just the attorneys. However, this process may not work for everyone. Alternative dispute resolution methods can help parents resolve conflict and reach a compromise. Collaborative family law and mediation give parents the chance to be active participants in the child custody agreement.
Minnesota couples may be interested to know that the old stereotype that bartenders have the highest divorce rates might be true. According to data from the 2015 American Community Survey, those who are employed in fields that involve the nightlife or travel, like shipping and transportation jobs, that prevents them from being home for long periods of time are more likely to get divorced than others.
The data also revealed the occupations that were least likely to get a divorce. These professions included medical professionals, software developers, scientists and actuaries. It was argued that this was because these professionals generally attracted individuals who preferred schedules and efficiency while professions involving nightlife and extensive travel attracted those who preferred fluid schedules. Those in popular professions located in more rural areas, such as forestry, farming, fishing or the military were also more likely to have lower divorce rates than other professions.
The fact that people who live in wealthy neighborhoods could be victims of domestic violence may surprise some Minnesota residents. However, a July murder-suicide involved victims who live in an affluent part of Springfield, Missouri. In that incident, police believe that a 66-year-old man and a 27-year-old woman were each found with a single gunshot wound. Authorities say that the two were in a romantic relationship and that the man fired the shots.
According to the director of the Harmony House, domestic violence occurs among all income levels. However, when such events occur among those who are in higher income brackets, people may have a harder time talking about it. This is because victims may be professionals who are scared that no one will believe them or that they will be scorned or embarrassed by coming forward with their allegations.
The issues that cause Minnesota couples to end their marriage often make negotiating the terms of property division difficult. To avoid costly financial mistakes, people must make a conscious effort to examine closely the details of the settlement. The property division phase includes splitting retirement accounts, and mistakes could lead to unexpected tax bills.
Any retirement savings, including employer-sponsored plans and individual accounts, must have specific paperwork completed before they can be divided. The divorce decree must clearly state who gets how much from each account. A document called a qualified domestic relations order officially authorizes distributions from a 401(k), 403(b) or pension according to the terms of a divorce. This order allows the parties to take their shares and roll them over into individual retirement accounts without incurring a taxable distribution.
Minnesota parents who are ending their marriage will need to work out consistent household rules for their children. This can be important for children whose lives have been disrupted by the divorce. House rules should not become a battleground for parents who are trying to attack one another. There may be some rules that a parent is unwilling to compromise on, but knowing those ahead of time as well as where there might be flexibility can help when parents sit down to negotiate. They may also want to consider having older children participate in the conversation as well.
Parenting classes and mediation are two resources parents can draw on if they are struggling to reach an agreement on household rules. Parenting classes, which can be recommended by family law courts, attorneys or therapists, can help establish norms and also give parents a sense of the importance of establishing consistency. In mediation, a neutral third party trained in conflict resolution works with parents to reach an agreement.
Divorcing parents in Minnesota often express concern about child custody and support issues. This is particularly true in a high asset divorce, but can also present issues for parents of more modest means.
One reason for concern and contention over child support payments is that media reports often sensationalize the amounts that celebrities pay to former spouses and partners. For example, actor Mel Gibson pays his former partner $30,000 a month in child support. Some celebrities may pay less, but they have also paid out larger settlements in the form of property division or alimony.
For many people charged with crimes, probation is a welcome relief from more serious sentencing options. Often it can be a substitute for incarceration, which is a victory for anyone fighting against criminal charges.
However, probation places significant limitations on your daily life. Terms for probation are often quite strict, limiting whom you can interact with, where you can go and how you live. You may have to meet with a probation officer regularly. You'll probably be subject to drug testing. Conditions can also include maintaining a steady address and gainful employment. With probation terms as strict as these, even a simple mistake or oversight could be more costly than you think.
Divorcing Minnesota parents and their children could all potentially benefit from a child custody model that expects both parents to maintain a full role in their children's lives following divorce. Shared parenting, a popular model for child custody around the world, can help more women to avoid poverty and remain active in the workforce while promoting closer relationships between fathers and children.
Despite the fact that a growing number of women work full-time, family courts award sole physical custody to mothers in over 80 percent of the cases they rule on. While this percentage declines dramatically when fathers actively seek custody in the courts, the traditional award can restrict divorced women's earnings as well as keeping children separate from their fathers.
When a Minnesota parent of young children has just ended a marriage with a toxic partner, having to continue to deal with the ex can be difficult. However, there are certain things that parents who have to deal with a toxic co-parent can do to make the situation less stressful.
First and foremost, parents should always keep their child's best interests in mind. If they do so, they may find that it is easier to deal with their ex. Further, parents should limit communication with the toxic co-parent to just being about the child's needs. This means avoiding bringing up unresolved issues from the divorce. This also means not talking about personal lives with the toxic co-parent.
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