Cooperative co-parenting reduces child custody issues

It's a sad fact that a lot of Minnesota marriages hit hard times. Many options are available to work through the rough patches. For some couples, the best decision may be a parting of ways through a divorce. This may be hard for parents with children, but the decision does not diminish their love for the children and it doesn't have to scuttle any parent-child relationships.

In fact, according to one recent study, those parents who focus primarily on what their children need instead of their own particular wishes regarding child custody, usually wind up with much happier children.

By the time they are 18, half of all children in the U.S. will have lived through a divorce, statistics show. The recent study on family relations in such circumstances looked at 20 mothers between ages of 26 and 49 who shared legal and physical custody of the kids with their exes. Of those, nearly half -- 45 percent -- had tense co-parenting relationships with the ex, 20 percent were on friendly terms. The remainder said things improved after the divorce.

What the authors determined is that to have a successful co-parenting relationship, ex-spouses must make strong efforts to get along. Instead of viewing the relationship between parents as a failed marriage, another expert says they should look at it instead as a business partnership -- with the business goal being to raise a content, well-adjusted child. She says that by committing to that approach, children are happier, do better in school and have stronger family ties.

Not surprisingly, experts indicate that the biggest conflict between ex-spouses over custody arrangements is lack of communication, such as not clearly sharing and coordinating over schedules. The expert said ex-spouses should chat by phone or email weekly to set a common calendar that works. Doing it out of the earshot of kids is best in case any conflicts arise.

Divorces involving children can be difficult. Children may have a tough time adjusting to the new reality. Still, it is not impossible to weather squalls if both parents vow to cooperate and unite in meeting the best interests of the children.

Source: Deseret News, "Parenting under two roofs: Focusing on the children after divorce," Rachel Lowry, Oct. 21, 2012

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information

We Can Help. Contact Us.

Tell us about your case. Bold labels are required.

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy



We start with a proactive approach through mutual education.

Note book


We expect the unexpected, so we are always prepared.



Our attorneys not only look professional but we adhere to the Highest Professional Standard.

  • Experienced Attorneys
  • Prepped For Trial
  • Attacked With The Groshek Method
Why Hire Us Learn More

Groshek Law PA
302 N 10th Ave
Minneapolis, MN 55401

Phone: 612-426-7047
Minneapolis Law Office Map

Groshek Law PA

Call for a consultation

Non-interactive Map of Groshek's Minneapolis Law Firm